Reflecting on Adoption

So a few months ago we decided to pursue adoption through the Foster Care System. In February we completed a gazillion hours of training that was informative but not particularly surprising. As we have waited to begin our homestudy (which officially begins on April 27th) I have checked out some books on adoption and have really tried to get a feel for how this decision is going to affect our family and also the children we take in to be our own. In some ways I have looked at this differently than adopting from overseas but I am realizing we would have probably dealt with similar issues--we just would have gone broke in the process. At least when you do fostering to adopt you get some help! Anyway, in addition to some phenominal advice from gifted therapists, social workers, and foster parents I have gleaned one very disturbing idea from my reading and processing. Our joy at growing our family will be our new children's suffering. Wow.